Let Go of the past
What do you want out of life? Is it cash? What about your health? Fame? Respect? All of these things are beneficial, but only when you concentrate on the present. If you spend all of your time reflecting on the past, your future will be dark and bleak.
Life is full of ups and downs, and sometimes the lows are so bad that you can’t get out of bed in the morning. But here’s the thing: while you’re feeling like that, if you let go of the past and focus on the future, you’ll be surprised at what occurs. Letting go of the past is essentially about letting go of whatever is holding you back.
Everyone has been there. We feel terrific about where we are in life in one moment. The next thing we know, we’re caught in a rut, unable to go ahead. We all have our own tales, but can you learn to let go of the past and go on with your life?
Why is it hard to let go of the past?
We all believe we know how to do it, but sometimes we can’t figure out why we keep doing things we know are terrible for us. When you’re going through a difficult period, it’s tempting to blame yourself for everything, but that’s not the case. It’s completely not your fault. Here are some of the reasons why it is so difficult to let go of the past:
You don’t want to solve your problems: The fact is that if you have a problem, you will not be happy no matter what you do. If you’re depressed, you’ll always be depressed, and you can’t alter that. What you can alter is how you react to what you’re going through. You don’t have to be miserable any longer. You have the option of feeling good about yourself.
You’ve been injured before: If you’ve been hurt before, you may believe you don’t deserve to be happy. You can believe that you do not deserve to be loved or to feel safe and protected. None of these statements are correct. It’s just your history getting in the way.
Hurt sentiments might lead us to cling to the past. We might get fixated on previous events because we are terrified of being harmed again. You may let go of your past and begin to love yourself anew.
You’re terrified of going ahead: When you don’t want to move forward, it’s easy to be caught in the past. It’s tough to let go of the past when you’re terrified of moving forward. You don’t have to be stuck in the past. You have the ability to affect what is occurring in your life right now.
You’re terrified of beginning again: Sometimes we’re afraid of what will happen if we start afresh. We’re frightened that if we start anew, we’ll lose all we’ve worked for. If you’re afraid of losing what you’ve worked for in the past, it’s better to abandon it. It will not benefit you if you continue to hang on to it.
The benefits of letting go
What happens when we relinquish control? We have no control over anything, including our own ideas and emotions, but we do have power over how we respond to external events and situations. We may relinquish control and live in the present moment. Letting go does not imply giving up; rather, it implies being open to new possibilities, allowing them to arise, and moving on.
Giving something away, or letting go, is the act of letting go. It is the inverse of hoarding. When you let go, you enter a state of flow, which means you lose sight of time and place. You are in a condition of ‘being,’ and there is no separation between you and your surroundings. When you become one with the planet, you no longer care about time or distance and lose track of both.
If you want to let go of old memories and begin a new life free of them, here are four simple steps to help you do so.
Step 1: Acknowledge
Recognize that you are clinging to something from the past.
You’re halfway there if you can acknowledge to yourself that you’re clinging onto something you don’t like. What exactly is it? Perhaps it’s rage, bitterness, regret, or dread. Whatever it is, just accept it. Now consider, “What would happen if I let go of this thing?” What would happen if you let go of a memory you’re clinging onto?
Determine how it is now influencing your life. Consider the impact it is having on your life and jot down a few instances. Are you still enraged with someone? Is it creating issues at work or in your relationships? Is it making you unhappy, depressed, or guilty? If you continue to hang on to this feeling, you may be unaware of how it is impacting you. Take a minute to consider how it has influenced you through time.
Step 2: Create a plan
It’s time to take action now that you’ve determined what you’re hanging onto. What are you going to do now that it’s time to let go of the past? You may not have the energy or drive to let go of anything. This is very normal. Indeed, the more you concentrate on letting go, the simpler it will be to let go of what you’re hanging onto. When we dwell on the past, we tend to hang onto things from the past. When we concentrate on the present moment, it becomes easier to let go of what we are clinging to. What can you do to help yourself progress in life? What steps do you need to take to let go of what’s holding you back?
Make a strategy for letting go of what is holding you back.
Step 3: Take action
Take action and begin to let go of whatever is impeding your progress.
Now that you’ve devised a strategy, it’s time to put it into action. It might be intimidating to attempt anything new, but that’s alright. You’re taking a risk, so why not take it? You may have a picture of letting go as simple and straightforward. It isn’t. You may believe that there is nothing you can do or that you are too weak to go on. You can always find something to do. If you don’t feel like you have the strength, ask for assistance. You may need to contact a friend or family member to help you through this process. You may need to seek professional assistance to ensure that you are not experiencing a period of despair or anxiety. The key is that you have choices. No matter how tiny or large the work seems to be, there is always something you can accomplish. So get up and do something!
Step 4: Reflect
Take a minute to contemplate now that you’ve done Steps 1-3. How did it feel to let go of whatever was holding you back? What were the outcomes? Have you seen any differences? Consider how you may apply this method to other aspects of your life. What are you clinging to that is interfering with your life right now? Recognize it. “What would happen if I let go of this thing?” ask yourself. Then devise a strategy for letting go of whatever is holding you back. Take action and start letting go of what is keeping you back. Rep until the emotions linked with those memories go.
Finally, if you are hanging on to something that is no longer benefitting you, let it go. Letting go might be difficult because you may want the old way of doing things. Instead of opposing it, consider the advantages of change. After all, you can’t do better than your previous efforts. However, you may improve your performance in the present by deciding to be more successful in the future. So, accept the change and be open to new experiences that may come your way.